Are we negotiating, arguing, or did I just get manipulated?
I had a parenting ‘aha’ moment yesterday. While navigating between two separate but equally intense conversations with my son’s father, and his step-father (my husband) I found myself reflecting upon how much we project our own fears onto our children.
My ex-husband is a former addict. He’s now three years into solid recovery, and is completing an addiction counseling certificate program. He frets constantly about our son’s potential drug use.
My husband is a scholar – highly respected in his field, but he dropped out of high school at age 15, and didn’t go back to school until his late 20’s. He frets constantly about Maxx’s academic achievement, or lack thereof.
I was a teenage rebel, and fret constantly that the occasionally fierce parenting style of my son’s dad and step-dad are going to push our teen to rebelling as fiercely as I did.
…..do we really just project our fears of our worst case scenario of reality onto our children?
……and what is the best way to discipline a teen with learning difficulties and a genetic predisposition to addiction without projecting our fears of the worst possible outcome onto him?
Some interesting reading on this topic:
http://www.naturalchild.com/sidney_craig/permissive.html
http://www.naturalchild.com/sidney_craig/punishment.html
I’d welcome your thoughts, experiences and resources on this topic.
Causes of Acute Headache in Children |
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Other general therapeutic measures include identifying and removing headache triggers, regulating lifestyle, and instituting behavioral therapies. Common triggers in children include disrupted sleep, skipped meals, analgesic overuse, and stress. Behavior therapies such as relaxation techniques, stress management, and biofeedback have proved efficacious.
The role of diet in the management of acute-recurrent headache is controversial. It is unrealistic to impose elimination diets in most children and even more so in adolescents. A rational approach is to provide caregivers with a list of potential dietary precipitants, including cheese, processed meats, chocolate, nuts, pickles, and monosodium glutamate, and ask them to watch for a possible temporal link between the child's headache and any of these dietary components. Banning any or all of these food items is unreasonable unless there is a clear association between a food item and the onset of headaches.
Caffeine, however, warrants special mention, and efforts should be made to moderate its use. If a child or adolescent is consuming many caffeinated soft drinks or several cups of coffee daily, consideration should be given to the possible role of caffeine as a contributing factor to headache. Caffeine abuse or withdrawal can precipitate headaches in adolescents. In addition, analgesic compounds with caffeine have a demonstrated association with rebound headache.17,18